A lot has been on my mind lately in relation to different facets of my life. I find that a lot of 'cosplay models' are shitty to those of us that also branch out into the more adult world of modeling and more so are shittier still if we use our costumes. At the end of the day, I am not a whore, I am not a money grubbing bitch, I'm not an asshole, I'm a capitalist.
Yes. I like to make money.
I use social media to do so. I use my costumes and my friends in costumes when available to film silly movies of weak women in distress or being 'abused' and tied up in bondage to struggle and monopolize on the fact men can be sadistic and totally want to see Wonder Girl cry her eyes out. And I am smiling with every sale.
I also help run a company that pays ladies to get naked and in contrast to the peril videos it highlights the strength of the woman, her courage to show her body and be proud of who she is. The company is built up on the ideal of a 'Goddess' being a completely attainable goal for a woman. Women SHOULD be proud of who they are and their bodies, but they shouldn't be made to feel bad if they like to go beyond boudoir photography.
This 'haterade' stems mostly I feel from people that don't understand the fetish model persona. Sometimes, with most things, you have to play the game to make money. That means that if a dude buys my nails or pays for my pedicure you'll see him referred to as slave, sub, or something demeaning. That isn't because I view him as lowly, hell I'm fucking tickled pink that I got my nails done, BUT the reference to him as a servant, a pay pig, a wallet is truly for HIS benefit. That's what he's really paying for, the feeling of servitude to a woman he finds beautiful. That's what drives his sexual fetish.
There are also plenty of dudes that see ladies refer to men this way and they begin to think we are all filthy gold diggers. I get it, yes it can come off that way. Most of us are pretty awesome though.
Do you think I treat my husband like shit? Do you think I'm rude to every person who emails me? Hell no. Typically I am very sweet and genuine in my emails to 'fans' or whatever you want to call them, and try to answer each one when I have time. I'm very honored to be a geek and be able to make money in this industry. I was an ugly duckling so yes, part of it is a huge self esteem boost, I would think it is for a lot of gals in my situation. Who doesn't like to hear they are pretty? I still blush and turn away whenever my husband tells me so. I'm a sensitive flower DAMNIT.
I guess it boils down to don't judge a model by her social media. Don't slut shame her because she calls someone a sub or a slave and gets her nails paid for by strangers. Don't be upset if she flaunts things she gets from her wishlist or post her wishlist, she's doing her fucking job. She's working while you are bitch, she's making money while you whine.
Now, is fetish modeling 'persona' abused? Are there gold diggers? Hell yes, in all walks of life you have people looking for something for free. Look at the 'cosplay models' who post their wishlist and aren't offering a service (ie most fetish models return the favor with photos or video or something as a thank you, most costumers just post about it on facebook).
However, I don't really have an issue with them, if someone wants to buy them stuff? LET THEM. They aren't spending YOUR money!
But I have digressed a bit. What I truly need to get off my chest is that 'cosplay models' need to simmer down. We aren't 'fake nerds' because we make money using our costumes for fetish (or hell sometimes pornographic) purposes. If that were the case your geekdom would fall every time you cut a tit window or showed off your cleavage. This isn't a competition over who can slut it up the most and still keep their geek cred. This is a community remember? Home for the wayward and the dorky, the nerdy and the geektastic. We shouldn't be such ass pockets. You ladies need to realize that fetish models aren't trying to take away your comic books (well yeah there are some of them out there who couldn't tell you a damn thing about comics and are trying to weigh in but that's another story) but you need to realize there are always going to be people who are just here to ride the wave, shake their tits and then they will move on. In the meantime you are isolating and vilifying some pretty rad chicks who just so happen to be naked on the internet.
Calm your tits ladies. We aren't the enemy.
